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A Garden Conservatory, A Ghost, and Literary Agent Jillian Manus

Friday, November 19th, 2010

IMG_0992Lookiloos partnered with Scene Magazine to profile high-powered literary agent and philanthropist Jillian Manus, who raises money for cancer research, speaks to women at shelters and has a ghost in her garden. Read her fascinating story and get a glimpse of her gorgeous conservatory and the gardens of her Atherton estate.

By Julia Prodis Sulek

For Scene Magazine

As the electronic gate slowly opens, the grand estate built nearly a century ago reveals itself. A curving driveway takes you to the edge of the gray stone mansion that is in the heart of Atherton, but looks transplanted from the French countryside. Broad front steps lead you to the leaded glass front doors, where the staff invites you into the library and out back to the tennis court and pool, putting green and redwood grove. The grounds are so vast that you hear Jillian Manus’ voice, with its hint of a British accent, before you see her.
Then there she is, the high-powered literary agent with bestsellers and Oprah picks, gliding down the conservatory steps into the garden, her long camel jacket floating behind her. Like Grace Kelly in “High Society,” you half-expect her to toss back her blond hair and ask, “Are you having a wonderful time?”IMG_1031
She and her husband, venture capitalist Alan Salzman, have indeed thrown their share of fabulous parties here. At one of their legendary Valentine’s Day galas that raise $300,000 a year for the Stanford Cancer Center, a live elephant greeted guests at the door.
So it seems all the more unimaginable when you learn that as vivacious and strong-minded as Manus is now in her late 40s, two decades ago she experienced harrowing, life-threatening abuse. As Manus puts it, “I’ve had everything in my life, and I”ve had nothing in my life.”
And it was when she was left with nothing, “no pride, no hope, no integrity and no possessions,” that she rebuilt herself into the woman she has become.
She speaks at women’s shelters and raises money for women’s causes. She throws swanky fundraisers and wishes on stars. She has a ghost in her garden.
Along the way, she has earned the respect of everyone from domestic violence survivors living in shelters (whom she has invited home for lunch),  a close-knit group of friends she calls her “broad squad” and California first lady Maria Shriver, who recruited Manus to chair her annual women’s conference and has attended her Valentine’s Ball with her grown daughter.
“Jillian is incredibly smart. She’s late for every meeting – she flies in because she’s so busy. In 30 seconds or less, and 25 words or less, she gets to the core of the issue, and she’s always right,” says Barbara Ralston, vice president of international patient services at Stanford Hospital. “I wish she would get more sleep, and I wish she would take care of herself. But I’ve never seen her do that, because she’s always taking care of someone else.”
IMG_1047Manus has come a long way, mentally, spiritually and professionally, from a horrific turning point in her mid-20s. She was living in Switzerland working for an international finance company when she fell in love with a young Swiss baron, true royalty, who promised her a fairytale life. Instead, the fantasy fell apart when she learned he was keeping secrets, including his alcoholism. She says when she confronted him on the phone to call off the engagement two weeks before the wedding, he came home in a drunken rage.
“He beat me to a pulp,” she says, and left her in a bleeding heap. She was whisked back to her hometown of Manhattan and hospitalized in critical condition, so badly injured she feared she would never have children. At the same time, the man she had intended to marry cleaned out her bank account, and gathered all her possessions and burned them in a towering bonfire.
“I was broken. I had allowed a man to break me,” Manus says. “I was so ashamed. I didn’t know how to explain it.”
She couldn’t bring herself to ask for her high-profile job back. (“No one wants to hire someone who’s that pitiful,” she says.) And she didn’t want financial help from her entertainment lawyer father or her literary agent mother.
“I wanted my pride back,” she says, “not for my parents to save me, but for me to save myself.”
She needed to prove to herself that she was worthy of something, of anything. And so she took a job as – of all things – a roller-skating waitress at nightclubs. (And this from a woman who had written her first TV screenplay at 16, studied English literature and dramatic writing in England and New York, landed a job as a talent agent in Hollywood and was named development director at Warner Bros. and Universal Studios – all by her mid 20s.)
IMG_1048“I called it the ‘H and H’ year – humbling and healing,” she says. “It was the most important year of my life.”
After her roller-skating stint, she modeled shoes, then worked the graveyard shift as a receptionist for a year until finally, she felt ready to return to business, this time in magazine publishing for “Upside,” a technology publication in the Bay Area.
By then, in her late 20s, she was ready to say yes when she met a handsome young man at Sak’s Fifth Avenue in New York while she was there on business. He was buying a belt. She was choosing a tie for her father’s birthday.
“Can I help you with this?” Alan Salzman, a lawyer and venture capitalist going through a divorce at the time, asked. They had dinner that night and within two years were married, under a willow tree in a rented home on the Peninsula, with 11 guests. She was able to have children after all, two boys, and with his two young children from a previous marriage, they began to raise their family.
She joined her mother’s literary agency, a small niche firm in New York, opened a Palo Alto office and grew the agency tenfold.
Along the way, she found herself drawn to books about women overcoming challenges. She then began seeking out authors who had stories to tell of tragedy and triumph. “Cane River,” by Lalita Tademy, was on Oprah’s Book Club list. “Geisha: A Life,” was a best-seller. Jerry Rice and Newt Gingrich are clients.
IMG_1009She added California friends to her “broad squad,” a group that started as a circle of her teenage friends in New York who not only supported each other, but also reached out to other girls in need. (They were so earnest they once got lost on their way to Harlem to help a girl they read about in the newspaper who had been abandoned.)
“We don’t whine, we don’t judge,” Manus explains, a motto that has endured for 35 years. “And we’re on 24/7 for each other.”
They now number 42, and support one another like they always have, whether taking midnight phone calls from each other, or volunteering and donating to each other’s causes.
As chairwoman of the Governor’s California Women’s Conference since its inception, she speaks about women’s empowerment across the country. Meg Whitman asked her to lead her  women’s coalition for her 2010 gubernatorial campaign, which Manus aptly named “MEGaWomen.” She meets homeless women at churches and abused women at local shelters, and encourages them to see themselves not through a man’s eyes, but also through their own. Sometimes she tells them her own story.
Christina Dickerson, a board member of the Shelter Network that serves women in the Bay Area, remembers the time Manus invited women from a shelter to her garden for an author’s luncheon.
IMG_1014“She makes everybody feel welcome,” Dickerson says. “I think the women at the shelter knew that she understands them and can help them. She’s got a voice that they might not have, and she’s willing to use it on their behalf.”
And on top of that, she said, Manus is pure fun to be around. Every year, she hosts one of the most talked-about parties on the Peninsula – the Valentine’s Ball at her home to benefit the Stanford Cancer Center. The gala is a tribute to her mother-in-law, Helen Salzman, who has survived three bouts of cancer with the center’s help.
Every year, moving trucks arrive to remove all the ground-floor furnishings, and 100 workers build new sets in each room according to theme. Last year, with a “Love Is a Game” theme, actors dressed as a “Barrel Full of Monkeys” welcomed guests at the front door. The game “Clue” was played out in the living room. And that was a year after the elephant was brought in from Southern California. Manus and her husband underwrite the entire evening.
IMG_1018Manus is also on the steering committee for a campaign that is reorganizing and remodeling a cancer clinic to be dedicated just to women.
Manus is rarely in bed before 2 a.m., whether she’s staying up to study Latin with one of her sons or returning from one of their soccer tournaments or football games. She takes midnight swims in her pool. And when an old swing that hangs from an oak tree seems to sway without a hint of a breeze, she’s certain it’s the ghost of a little girl who once lived and died there – a testament to her belief that “the spirit lives on.”
She’s still on a journey, she says, only recently having a spiritual awakening that gave her life a sense of peace that seemed to elude her. After months of soul searching, it was a Biblical quote carved into a church bench that has inspired this newfound peace: “Rejoice always. Pray constantly. Give thanks in all circumstances.”
icons.manus04ccrkThis year, when Manus and her husband celebrated their anniversary in Hawaii, he rested two chairs on a rock jutting into the ocean and got down on one knee. As the sun set, he proposed again.
“He said he wanted to give me the fairytale wedding I deserved,” she says.
But she told him she didn’t want to live in a fairytale. Even with the challenges she’s faced, it’s the real world she cherishes most.

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Zem Joaquin’s House is Ecofabulous — Take a Green Tour with Us

Thursday, April 1st, 2010

Green ChairsLookiloos and Scene Magazine,  produced by the San Jose Mercury News, teamed up to profile Ecofabulous founder Zem Joaquin. Here’s  the story of Zem’s fascinating life  written by Julia Prodis Sulek, and photos and slideshow of her own sexy, sustainable house by Desiree Northend:

She was born in 1970 with a name that means “earth” in Czech on a commune in Palo Alto called “The Land.”
Zem Joaquin was a dark-haired pixie with patchwork pants who played with chickens, danced in the central longhouse and sang with Joan Baez in the squatters camp off Page Mill Road.
The darling of the draft resisters back then, she became the subject of their illustrated fairy tale about  “Zem, the little queen” who unites a strife-torn world. Even Baez, who founded the commune and lived there for a time, included “Zem Zem” in her 1975 song, “Children and All That Jazz.”
Perhaps it should come as no surprise, then, that she was destined to make a name for herself in the environmental movement. Unlike her parents’ generation that reveled in the counterculture fringe, though, she is helping create a modern movement in the mainstream.
And she’s doing so with her own sense of rebellion: She’s making green glamorous.Blue Dining Chair
Founder of Ecofabulous, she created a Web site that gives readers eco-friendly lifestyle options, from modular furniture made from recycled paper to chic throws made of hemp and flax. Going green needs to be less about sacrifice, she realized, and more about motivation. (The site’s motto: “sexy.sustainable.style.”) After all, she muses, “People weren’t too interested when organic cotton looked like oatmeal and felt like a burlap sack.”
Step inside the 1960s-era home in Marin County that she remodeled for her family and you’ll see what she means.
At 39 years old and just 5 feet tall, she opens the front door with bare feet and a big smile. Behind her, vintage black-and-white curtains she found at the Alameda Point Antiques Faire frame a pair of chairs she recovered in remnant lime green silk. Sleek kitchen counters are made from newspaper wood pulp and fly ash. Her vintage Laszlo dining room chairs are refilled with natural rubber.
“Being fabulous is feeling like you’re getting what you really want,” she says. “At the same time, you’re not taking more than you need and you’re giving back.”
Hall ArtSo how did this commune kid become such a design diva?
She may have been raised on granola, but she came of age living in London for two-and-a-half years in her early 20s with her godmother – a stylish critic for the Evening Standard who took her to theaters, boutiques and Paris for weekends and “taught me everything I know about design.” Joaquin (then Spire, her maiden name) finished her degree in organizational communications at Pepperdine, where she started a recycling program. And after a stint managing male models in Italy (she followed a boyfriend there), she returned to San Francisco in the late 1990s to help her best friend, Gina Pell, start Pell’s fledgling fashion and beauty Web site, Splendora.
“She was my VP of business development because she’s so good with people. She has a way of developing and nurturing connections,” Pell says. “I always told her that if she was a superhero, that would be her superpower – the ultimate connector.”
It was Pell, though, who connected Zem with her husband, tech entrepreneur James Joaquin.
They met at a cocktail party in 1999 in San Francisco, married and had two children. She was volunteering for homeless causes and political campaigns when her children were diagnosed with severe asthma. The family was living in an old Craftsman in San Francisco at the time, spending many a night in the emergency room when she decided she had to “save my children and create a healthy home.”Girl's Dressing Area
The Marin County house, tucked among blackberry bushes and towering trees, became her eco-incubator. Old painted beams were stripped with beeswax, wall-to-wall carpeting was replaced with recycled wine-cork flooring and solar panels were added to the roof.
But finding sustainable products, and stylish ones at that, wasn’t easy. “I realized there was this enormous gap,” she says. “There were no resources for eco-design and people interested in design.”
It was her husband who handed her a copy of “Cradle to Cradle,” the environmental manifesto of architect William McDonough, whom James Joaquin had heard speak at the 2004 TED conference for technology, entertainment and design in Monterey.
“This is what you’ve been talking about,” he said at the time to his wife, “what you’ve been spiraling in towards.”
She was so enthralled by the book, which professes ecologically intelligent design, that she invited McDonough to lunch with “some of my friends that I think can change the world.”
The guest list included her husband’s good friend, eBay founder Pierre Omidyar; Segway inventor Dean Kamen, whom she had met at a dinner party; and inventor, entrepreneur and Disney “imagineer” Danny Hillis.
This time, it was McDonough’s turn to be impressed. He invited her to attend his annual eco-summit in Iceland the following year with some 20 “thought leaders” and activists.
ZemUnlike some in the environmental movement who preach doom and gloom, he says, Joaquin takes a positive approach.
“It’s a big dark world out there, and we need brightness,” he says in a phone interview from Abu Dhabi where he was talking to real estate developers about green design. “Zem is a sparkle.”
And she knows how to throw a party. Over the past several years, she has raised nearly $1 million dollars for Global Green, an L.A.-based nonprofit that activates its Hollywood base to bring attention to green issues, including the sustainable rebuilding of New Orleans and Haiti. At her first party she threw at the Clift Hotel in San Francisco several years ago, Leonardo DiCaprio showed up. Salma Hayek and Orlando Bloom came to the second.
“She actually seduces people into doing the right thing,” Ariana Huffington of the Huffington Post said when she presented Joaquin with Global Green’s Founder’s Award last year. “She always makes people feel that the right thing is the fun thing.”
Plus, she added, “she’s adorable.”
While Joaquin founded Ecofabulous in 2006 to chronicle her environmentally friendly remodeling resources, she has since expanded it to include organic beauty, fashion and lifestyle choices. She consults with such companies as eBay and Safeway and has been a frequent “green” guest on radio and TV shows. She raises chickens in her side yard, grows tomatoes and herbs, and even has her 6-year-old daughter weighing in with her opinion about kids’ green products. And over the past few years, she’s convinced every one of her closest friends to drive a hybrid.
So what’s next?
“I never thought in a million years I would want to have a commune,” she says.
But lately, she’s thinking about it, maybe bringing her closest friends together, living sustainably off the grid. She doesn’t have the details worked out yet, but one thing is certain: Unlike the A-frames and outhouses she grew up with, she says, “this commune would be stylized.”

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Warmenhovens Share Mediterranean Estate, Tea Garden with Charities

Thursday, April 1st, 2010

Pool and ViewBy Julia Prodis Sulek for Lookiloos and Scene Magazine, photos by Lookiloos photographer Desiree Northend

Charmaine Warmenhoven was in high school in 1964 when news of the notorious murder of Kitty Genovese on the streets of New York spread across the country, a shocking story because even though many heard her screams, apparently no one did a thing to help.
Charmaine was fascinated, though, less about the bystanders who did nothing and more about the idea of those who “try to do something.”
With a strong foundation as a woman of faith and a psychology degree from Princeton, reaching out to others in need has become a guiding principle of her life as a philanthropist and educator of special needs children.Living
“It’s part of our value system,” she says. “You are meant to provide service to others. I’ve been doing so ever since I can remember.”
From the graceful Monte Sereno home surrounded by acres of gardens that she shares with her husband, Network Appliance board chairman Dan Warmenhoven, the couple open their doors to fundraisers benefiting causes ranging from cancer research to local arts groups to Catholic charities. In June, she is hosting the Silicon Valley Heart Gala for 250 to raise money for the American Heart Association. With Yahoo CEO Carol Bartz chairing the event, the nonprofit is expecting the guest list to include some of the valley’s tech luminaries. If all goes well, the charity hopes to raise more than half a million dollars (maybe a million, dare they hope) at this single event.
“Dan and I feel we’ve been given a lot, and we need to give and to share,” she says. “It’s more than a habit. It’s a lifestyle.”
And Keri  Janssen, CEO of the Silicon Valley American Heart Association, couldn’t be more grateful.
“They are very down to earth and very dedicated to making a difference in the community,” Janssen says. “Opening your home to an event is totally different than giving money. They are dedicated to the mission and the cause and have been for over 10 years.”
Hosting the fundraiser at a home rather than a hotel is much more intimate, she says. Besides, “who wouldn’t want to see the Warmenhoven home?”
Kitchen WindowA winding driveway leads you past oak trees and a sunken Japanese tea garden to the grand estate atop a hill. A 17th-century wishing well and a stone gazebo adorn the front garden that overlooks the lights of the valley below.
The back yard, with terraces surrounding a pool and cabana house, will be the setting for the June party. A saxophonist will play during cocktail hour from the balcony, and tables will be set up around the pool. Each guest will be given a candle to light, representing heart disease survivors, and float them in the pool.
“It will be the feel of a romantic, starry night,” Janssen says.
The causes Warmenhoven supports are close to her heart. As a child, her mother was a concert pianist, and she was a dancer. As an adult, she has served on the boards of Ballet San Jose and the Montalvo Arts Center.
With her father in the military, her family moved around a lot, she says, and going to Catholic church on Sundays wherever they happened to live “felt like family and it gave me a sense of stability and belonging.”
After teaching disabled children for a number of years, she went on to work for  the Catholic Diocese in Santa Clara County, helping people with disabilities feel included in church life. Just last year, the Warmenhovens hosted a garden party for the Knights of St. John, an organization ounded to take care of wounded soldiers but that now donates frequently to children’s hospitals.
Charmaine’s father died of cancer when she was 13, and the Warmenhovens have been supporters of the American Cancer Society’s Cattle Barons’ Ball each year.
“I do a variety of different things,” she says, “but they all make sense to me.”Rear View of Home
She and her husband met sitting next to each other on a plane on their way back to Princeton from the West Coast when she was a junior and he was a senior.
“He asked me to dinner,” she says, “and we were married two years later.”
After moving around the East Coast with his jobs for IBM and HP and hers in teaching, they arrived in Santa Clara Valley in the early 1980s. In the mid-1990s, Dan Warmenhoven became president and CEO of Network Appliance, employing 45 people at the time. It has since grown to 8,000 employees worldwide.
The Warmenhovens moved from their house in Saratoga, which their son and daughter-in-law now own, to the Monte Sereno estate three years ago. Even though the house is grand, the rooms feel intimate. And she loves the indoor/outdoor flow of the house, which is perfect for entertaining.
She enjoys planning gatherings for her family and close friends, but she leaves the big parties to the pros. She has her list of favorite local party planners, florists and caterers.
“I just sit back and applaud,” she says, “and open the door.”Julia Looking Left - Lookiloos

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